英文作者：佚名，中文译文: 佚名，译文修改、润色: 活龙
Love means that I know the person I love. I’m aware of the many sides of the other person–not just the beautiful side but also the limitations, inconsistencies and flaws.
Love means that I care about the welfare of the person I love. If I care about you, I’m concerned about your growth, and I hope you will become all that you can become.
Love means having respect for the dignity of the person I love. If I love you, I can see you as a separate person, with your own values and thoughts and feelings, and I do not insist that you surrender your identity and conform to an image of what I expect you to be for me.
Love means having a responsibility toward the person I love. If I love you, I’m responsive to most of your major needs as a person.
Love means growth for both myself and the person I love. You are a stimulant for me to become more fully what I might become, and my loving enhances your being as well.
Love means making a commitment to the person I love. This commitment does not entail surrendering our total selves to each other; nor does it imply that the relationship is necessarily permanent. It does entail a willingness to stay with each other in times of pain, uncertainty, struggle, and despair, as well as in times of calm and enjoyment.
Love means trusting the person I love. If I love you, I trust that you will accept my caring and my love and that you won’t deliberately hurt me. I trust the reciprocal nature of our love.
Love can tolerate imperfection. In a love relationship there are times of boredom, times when I may feel like giving up, times of real strain, and times I experience an impasse. Authentic love does not imply enduring happiness. I can stay during rough times, however, because I can remember what we had together in the past, and I can picture what we will have together in our future if we care enough to face our problems and work them through.
Love is free. Love is freely given, not doled out on demand. Authentic love is not given with strings attached. There is an unconditional quality about love.
Love is expansive. If I love you, I encourage you to reach out and develop other relationships. The honest evidence of our love is our commitment to encouraging another’s full development.
Love means having a want for the person I love without having a need for that person in order to be complete. If I am nothing without you, then I’m not really free to love you.
Love means identifying with the person I love. If I love you, I can empathize with you and see the world through your eyes. I can identify with you because I’m able to see myself in you and you in me. This closeness does not imply a continual “togetherness”, for distance and separation are sometimes essential in a loving relationship. Distance can intensify a loving bond, and it can help us rediscover ourselves, so that we are able to meet each other in a new way.
Love is selfish. I can only love you if I genuinely love, value, appreciate, and respect myself. If I am empty, the all I can give you is my emptiness. If I feel that I’m complete and worthwhile in myself, then I’m able to give you out of my fullness. One of the best ways for me to give you love is by fully enjoying myself with you.
Love involves seeing the potential within the person we love. In my love for another, I view her or him as the person she or he can become, while still accepting who and what the person is now.
Mature love is union under the condition of preserving one’s integrity, one’s individuality. In love this paradox occurs that two beings become one and yet remain two.
- 原帖发布时间：2004 年 5 月 18 日
- 第一次修改：2010 年 12 月 10 日（修改原因：六年，弹指一挥间，有了太多的改变…… ）
- 第二次修改：2014 年 2 月 26 日 （又三年多过去了，再次修改）
- 第三次修改：2014 年 8 月 5 日（边给大家讲译文边修改）